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you gotta be able to say “die”
you gotta be able to say “suicide”
you gotta be able to talk about “sex”
they’re uncomfortable topics, YEAH for SURE
because LIFE is uncomfortable. Death and suicide and sex and pain are straight up going to happen. not having words for the way it discomforts you doesn’t make it more comfortable, it just makes you less able to reach out about it.
even more vital, you gotta be able to say words like “rape”, “abuse”, “queer” or “racist”. cause we fought fucking hard to name those experiences. to identify “rape” as distinct from “sex” and “racism” as distinct from “acceptable behaviour” and “queer” as distinct from “invert”
like the function of communication is not to minimise immediate discomfort. we gotta be able to talk about stuff that’s hard or sucks or causes difficult conversations.
This is what’s so goddamn terrifying about the Internet slowly collapsing into the same 3-5 websites–if Facebook deprioritizes you for saying “sex” and TikTok shadowbans you for saying “suicide” and
TwitterX locks your account for saying “racism” we’ve lost a lot more than just the culture of the old weird internetAnd the whole alternative spelling to try and circumvent these restrictions are finding their way into tumblr and ao3. It’s doing an extreme disservice for the people who use the tags to exclude topics that may trigger their traumas or they simply don’t like.
If these words are banned, we cannot articule the issues which impact us. It is censoring and silencing.
@zeithemis is Correct
“Unalived” is the one that bothers me the most, probably. I’m a (disabled former) hospice chaplain. I’ve seen, every day for years, the concrete impact that acceptance or denial of death has. By concrete impact I mean: on average, the people I’ve met who were more comfortable talking about death, were more comfortable when they approached their own deaths. The people who were more afraid, had more difficulty (emotionally, spiritually, often physically) in their last weeks. A person’s capacity to face and move through grief is directly tied to their comfort with and acceptance of death. Children who ask questions and receive honest answers about death, have an easier time grieving and healing than children who know they’re not supposed to talk about it.
Everyone dies. Everyone has loved ones who die. Avoiding the word just makes the concept more frightening and strange. If you can’t name it and talk about it, how on earth can you be prepared when it inevitably shows up at your doorstep?
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so hard to explain your personal inside jokes but. okay so every time i roll a joint i’m like hmm how much is left in the tray.. about a joints worth..
and then i get caught up thinking about a weed butler named jointsworth
thank you jointsworth
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today on science twitter…….
an article about the incident. michael eisen is jewish and has israeli family and they fired him for “siding” with palestine
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those posts always go around that are like “if you’re on Tumblr and you’re over 25 blah blah blah” but honestly if you’re on Tumblr and you’re under 25, I don’t know how the fuck you found this place. like I came here when it was actually kind of cool and then just never left because all my stuff was here. what’s your excuse
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What sex positivity IS
- Believing that sex is not inherently dirty, sinful, shameful, or oppressive, but instead is something to be embraced, enjoyed, and celebrated.
- Understanding that, beyond very basic things like consent, there is no single, “right” way to be sexual because human sexuality and sexual behavior are incredibly diverse.
- Accepting the fact that your sexual preferences might be very different from someone else’s, and that’s okay! Part of acknowledging the diversity of human sexuality is being comfortable with the fact that there are sexual things out there that are not for you (or may even gross you out), and that the people who do like those things aren’t doing anything wrong.
- Rejecting the stigma attached to things like BDSM or sex work.
What sex positivity is NOT
- Believing everyone should have as much sex as possible
- Thinking that people who don’t want to have sex, for any reason, are bad or repressed.
- Insisting that no one gets to have boundaries around what kinds of sexual things–including conversations about sex–they’re comfortable engaging in.
- Believing that sex cannot be bad or traumatic, or that anyone who has negative or complicated feelings about sex is in the wrong.
- Replicating the male gaze.
(From Sam’s response to Is sex positivity just another version of the male gaze?)
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Pokémon breed variants have made a comeback across the regions, particularly in grass types such as Leafeon.
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Fucked up that I find uniforms sexy but also have an intense hatred for most institutions (police, the military etc) that have them. Where does that leave me
BRB gonna fuck the mailman like im a 50s housewife
cops don’t deserve so much as a crumb of my hateful pussy……
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we really need to re-introduce the term “publicity stunt” back into our vocabulary. too many people are getting continually duped by blatant marketing ploys bc fundamentally they don’t see celebrities as….greedy millionaires cashing in on media trends to make money
hmmm i see what u mean, but entertain this idea with me….the misuse of the term ‘publicity stunt’ could potentially put an end to tiktok’s popularity because the kids on that app would start to see themselves as 'posers’ the way teens did in the '00s
NO UR ACTUALLY COMPLETELY AND OBJECTIVELY CORRECT MB
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The 1 in 4 American women who have had an abortion are more than a bit concerned here.
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You can believe in magic, but watch out.
It’s fun learning astrology until you start to make broad assumptions about real people’s behavior based only on their birthday.
It’s fun to speculate about alien civilization until you say early cultures weren’t competent enough to build their own pyramids or until scientologists stalk you for every penny you have.
It’s fun dressing symptoms in mystical language like “empath” or “indigo child” until you go through life undiagnosed, unaccomodated and feeling less and less human.
It’s all fun and games until Tiktokkers tell you hallucinations are actually attunement with a higher dimension and that you should stop taking your antipsychotics.
It’s fun to think about possession and changelings until mom starts trying to “save” her child’s soul or dad kills his family for having “serpent genes.”
It’s fun to see natural formations as if they were manmade until you start believing cultists when they say flying saucers are Antarctic Nazis.
You can believe in magic. It’s fun to believe in magic. Believing in magic is valuable stimulation. But watch out. Remember your reality checks. There’s a lot of cults and scams and white supremacists out there who want to sell you something, and that longing for magic to believe in is how they get you.
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